Dropping the Witnesses and hurting herself at work and being isolated from people has led her down this path
Witness 007 you need to seek help! Someone you can talk with, because your not thinking clear and your reasoning for going back to your wife does not make any sense. If you want to go to meetings go, but do not use your unstable wife as in excuse to attend meetings! If you go because of your wife your going to become angry and lash out on the wrong person.
What do you think everyone who reads this post is going to pate you on your back and see you as a hero or what a nice guy! NO people are going to read this post and think that you are confused and need help. You have an agenda for going back in a living situation with a someone who is too unstable to live with that is why you state, "no choice." There is always a choice but it might not be the house, car, dog, and securities. Perhaps you are tired of living with mom and the exwife is your only place to live right now! I think you have an angenda and are going back for the wrong reasons and YOU are not looking like a nice guy!
I am going to call you out on the I am a hero to my wife syndrome! What are you getting out of fixing your wife? Why would you want to be with someone you need to fix which is impossible!
You made a deal with your wife that you will attend meetings, and your going against your own feelings about the JW for the sake of your wife if so.
Your lying to yourself and you want to deceive others; your wife as well as other Jehovah Witnesses will be hurt because you will be a big disappointment to them. You are going to go to meetings right off it is based on a lie, you already know that you no longer like what they teach. Next, you are going to make friends for "your wife" by appearing to be a JW which you dislike. Do you think JW do not get attach to people? Sure they are humans like you. You will hurt other by this little lie once they find out that you no longer believe in the WTBTS doctrines. Guess what?
The one you are hurting the most is the person you see in the mirror everyday. You are hurting yourself because you are wasting your time and energy with a lie. Grow up!
You know what I would like to see? You get yourself together before you try to help anyone else! Stay strong be honest and upright. Do what is right and let your wife go so she can get her help and not be depended on you. Your wife has had mental problems before her physical health issues and maybe for some reason you have the need to help her. You did not seperate for 8 weeks for nothing and your wife did not get a restraining order on you for nothing!
Do you think you will be able to fix someone? If so you really need counseling! Does it ever shock you that you were attracted to someone who has mental illness? Would you have married your wife if you knew she had mental illness? Now, who really has the problem your wife who knows how to control you with her neediness, or the person who falls for someone who needs to be fixed and wants everyone to say, "What a nice guy!"
Take care hope this helps you!